Love and Dating

Go to a playground that’s not in use and play! Take along a picnic lunch, baseball, bat, Frisbee or outdoor toys (blowing bubbles is fun)� Have a great lunch after playtime.
Don’t surprise your date with a hatchet movie, meal, etc. on the first date. They may be allergic to horror films - and you don’t want to ’surprise’ a vegetarian with a dinner at “Harvey’s House of Beef.”
With a ’surprise’ date you could end up with a teetottler at a wine-tasting, or a lactose-intolerant date at a cheese fest - you get the picture…
Be honest, don’t play games. Avoid even stretching the truth, the first time you’re caught it will destroy your credibility.

Be on time. Lateness is inconsiderate (not to mention it reveals all sorts of things about your personality such as your passive-aggressive tendencies). If your date is late, be pleasant, and listen to their reason - it might be legitimate.
Tell yourself you’re not nervous, just excited.
If your date compliments you don’t just brush it off or say something rude about yourself, say thank you and do NOT put yourself down.
If you’re concerned about topics of conversation, be sure to read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so you’re up on world events.
Find out if he has any good platonic female friends. It’s a good sign if they can relate to women�
Keep checking the inside (give the exterior stuff a rest). If you stay focused on looks you may end up ignoring or dumping a perfectly fantastic person without ever really giving them a chance.
Be open — to your date’s ideas about what to do on the date and express yourself honestly (AND tactfully).
Don’t manhandle your date and don’t rush sex!
Keep the first date brief. Leave them wishing for more, not wondering how to escape.
Stay away from someone who only talks about money and ‘things’ or who boasts - usually signs of deep-seated insecurity.
Don’t talk about marriage and kids and long-term plans for the two of you on your first dates.
Be clear about the date, time and place…and be on time! Don’t leave things hanging with “I’ll call you later with the details�”
Keep topics light and keep away from controversial issues on the first date. Also, refrain from using off-color language or jokes, or making sexual references.

Try a sporting event neither one of you have ever seen live: a polo match, professional tennis tournament, golf tournament, dressage, volleyball, tractor-pull, sumo-wrestling - whatever you can agree on doing together that’s different.
Collect cocktail napkins or other mementos from all the places you have been together.
Help solve a problem by writing a letter to together to the love doctor - “Dr TRuth.”
Remember, games can be fun. Monopoly, computer games for two, card games, and end it all with a game of Twister.

I’d like to tell you a story…
It’s a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don’t be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive
woman… but the more he got to know her, the
more he began to feel attracted to her… and
the more time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like “You are
so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in
my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the
“friendship” stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional
kiss on the cheek from her… and once she even
held his hand for a long time while he talked
about an emotional issue.
But something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn’t acting like a woman that was
“falling in love”. She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself… and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing
things up” by kissing her or asking her to be
his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he
would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said “Thank you… I really mean that… but
I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re
too important to me…”.
This only confused the man more.
He didn’t know how to take it…
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long-
term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on
the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like
this anymore… he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how much
he wanted to be with her… so he took a big step,
bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter… again confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn’t reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and
said “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go”… and hung up…
…but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong… and
what happened.
THE END
OK, I’m back.
Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take
up writing romance novels…
Now, let’s talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I’m not talking about FICTION here.
I’m talking about a story that rings true for
a great majority of men. A story that is timeless.
A story that resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story resonate for
most men?
Because we’ve all been there in one way or
another… at one time or another… and many of
us have been there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular story
a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions
that it stirs… as a result of the powerful
negative experiences that it reminds us of…
Stories and situations like this one really
FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them as an
opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles
that they represent.
In this particular situation I think there is
a solution.
And it lies in understanding a secret that
women know but MEN DON’T.
And that secret comes down to the reality that
if a woman isn’t ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to
like him, and court her BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON’T WORK,
they actually make things WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a man does
to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT
like him. They make her run.
All those great intentions and emotional
dedication actual cause the man feeling them to
do things that make her go away.
It sucks.
And I hope that by explaining the process of
how this happens to you I’ll help you avoid this
painful situation in your own future…
THE “INSTANT EWWW”
I’m always fascinated by the idea that we
humans don’t always understand the message that
we’re communicating to others…
So often we think that because we WANT to
communicate a message that others are going to
NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.
Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car
that has wheels on it that cost more than the
car itself… with his stereo blasting… and
a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound
of the 4-cylinder motor…?
Have you ever thought to yourself “I don’t
think that car is communicating the message to
women that he thinks it is”…?
Yea, I have too.
Well here’s the deal:
If you do something to “let a woman know how
you feel”… but she isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then
it’s going to backfire.
It’s going to trigger a feeling that like to
call the “Instant Ewww”.
The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the
physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.
Once a woman feels it, YOU’RE DONE.
It’s over.
It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into
the coffin.
Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will
start behaving differently.
In short, she’ll disappear.
So where did I get the concept of the “Instant
Ewww”?
I got it from WOMEN.
I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the
word “Ewww” when describing how they felt about
a guy that was “confessing his love”… of course,
these were guys that weren’t loved in return.
So what causes the Instant Ewww?
And why would a woman feel it towards a man who
was trying to be nice… a guy who was giving her
a gift or telling her how he feels?
Because if you think about it from HER
perspective, you’ll realize that the moment a
you do something to “confess”, you have created a
TURNING POINT in the relationship.
Up until that point, you were harmless.
I mean, women always know how men feel.
She already knew you wanted her.
She knew it from the beginning.
But now that you’ve started pursuing her and
talking about how you feel, you’ve created a
NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.
You’ve triggered an emotion that is repulsive
to women. And it does repel them.
In summary…
You can’t “make a woman like you” or “change
how she feels about you” by doing nice things for
her…
Doing “nice” things for a woman who isn’t
attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse,
it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling that makes
it so she’ll NEVER like you.
Men make this mistake over and over again in
life because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to
them. They’re doing it because they don’t have
an understanding of ATTRACTION.
I mean, If you have a friend, and you like
them, and you want to make them like you more…
and you do some nice thing for them, they will
probably like you more.
On the other hand…
If you have a woman that you “like” in a romantic
way, and she doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you
do something nice for her because you want HER to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and she will
not only NOT like you more, she will most likely
distance herself from you.
Guys think that they need to communicate when
they like a woman… as if that’s part of the
necessary process of getting a girl.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you
Well remember… if you follow this pattern
yourself with women who aren’t ATTRACTED to you,
then it’s going to BACKFIRE.
If she’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:
She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you
like her>She gets the “Instant Ewwws” and never
wants to be around you again…
THE ANSWER
There are really TWO answers to this problem.
The first answer is what to do if you’re in a
situation where you like a particular girl, but
you don’t know if she likes you back.
DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HER.
Don’t buy her a big gift and write a love
letter…
Don’t send her ten dozen roses to her work
with a not that says “From your secret admirer”.
Don’t call her three times a day.
And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.
If you want to know how she feels about you,
KISS HER (and use “The Kiss Test” that you
learned on my website and in my book).
As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than
HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she
feels… and if you don’t know how to read and
create those signals, then LEARN.
Asking a woman if she’s interested in your
in a romantic way, or if you are “her type” will
actually DESTROY the chances that she’ll like
you.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into this
particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid
it entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating ATTRACTION from
the beginning.
One does that by understanding the dynamics
of how and why women have the physical and
emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.
One does that by knowing what you’re doing
FROM THE BEGINNING.
And what’s the best way to learn THAT
skill?
I thought you’d never ask…
The very best way to learn how to make women
feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a
copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.
I’ve spent several years now studying the
ways that men who are “naturals” communicate
using their words, voice tone, and body language
that makes them MAGNETIC to women.
And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.
You don’t have to be rich, handsome, or young.
And you don’t have to be LUCKY.
What you DO have to do is LEARN.
It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY
man can learn it if he wants.
But you’re not likely to figure it out by
“trial and error”. Many of the keys to making
women feel ATTRACTION aren’t “obvious” at all.
In fact, many of them make no sense… and
they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular
situation if you didn’t know the SECRETS.
I’m telling you, this book will show you
the way. I guarantee that this program will
INSTANTLY change how you behave around women.
And it will start getting you results
IMMEDIATELY.
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A study of 16,000 women determined those with hourglass figures were more intelligent than their counterparts with round or straight bodies, The Sunday Times of London reported.
Curvier women also tended to have more intelligent children, possibly because omega3 fatty acids are stored in their hips, the British newspaper said. Skinny women, or those whose fat deposits are around their waists do not have such deposits.
The study, to be published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior this week, may explain earlier findings that men prefer women with smaller waists than hips even if they are compared to slimmer women, said the study’s authors at the University of Pittsburgh and the University of California, Santa Barbara.
It may also help break down the stereotype that attractive women are not intelligent, sexual and relationship psychologist Paula Hall told the newspaper.

Am I complicated if I want him to understand what I leave unsaid? Or is he too daft to decode the language of unspoken gestures? A question that has niggled us since time immemorial! We don’t expect our men to be possessed of heavenly powers but does it take that much instinctual insight to figure out when is the right time to give her emotional support and not expect something physically satiating to result out of the interaction!
Well, I am not here to do only male bashing. Women also need to understand that we are biologically different people. Our mental, emotional and aesthetic makeup is different from men. You can’t expect the poor guy to be attuned to your needs and senses all the time. Give him time to do his share of goofy time pass activities that men thrive on, namely sports and beer! He needs it as much as we need shopping and gossip!!!
And what can I say about their other activities that can best be termed as nefarious. The roving eye syndrome for example, which is incurable in men of all ages! Why can’t they resist keeping their eyes to themselves? One girl in a short skirt and strapless top walks by and the guy’s imagination takes the wildest turn possible! The one sitting next to you looking as pretty in a jeans or a suit becomes a non entity in a matter of seconds!
I have nothing against women who believe in strutting their stuff, if you’ve got it, flaunt it! But it shouldn’t necessarily work out to the disadvantage of the less flaunting variety like us just because the men in our lives choose to drool all over the former type.
Women on the other hand tend to overwork themselves when it comes to their looks! Relax ladies, maintain yourself, be attentive to trends but don’t go overboard! A man who loves you for what you are is the one who deserves you! My guy should like me even when I have a pint of oil massaged into my hair and I will adore him just as he is! But that doesn’t mean that I will always be lax about my appearance in front of him!
Men always quip about the fact that they have to lie in order to keep women happy! I agree to some extent that women tend to be oversensitive over certain issues; we have to learn to be able to take the truth at least from the men who are important in our lives!
But this bargain works both ways! Men need to share! They have to start talking and quit keeping things under wraps! What is the point of it anyways, as most men are really pathetic at it.
Men down the ages have blamed women of being too self contradictory, indecisive, fussy or in one word, complicated. But what if it is the other way round! Can’t it be that women are creatures of higher strata of evolution that makes them a mystery for the “overtly simplistic” man?
“Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it’s our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you’d like to have dinner with.”-Kathleen Mifsud-
There’s something for all of you to think about!!!
Disclaimer: This piece of writing is a jesting repartee on the age old battle of the sexes and the writer is genuinely apologetic for any frayed nerves that result on reading it!!!

Posted By: Megha Sharma

Sex Tips - The REAL Secret to Sexual Confidence 

Use these 10 love making tips on your woman and you’ll have her swooning with desire.

1. Touch
Women are very tactile beings.  They love to be touched and caressed.  Hold her, massage her, tease and tantalize her playfully with your fingers.  Don’t go straight to the genitals, pay attention to her whole body.

2. Kisses
Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest turn ons for a woman.  Looking into her eyes or touching her face while kissing her can increase the arousal of the kiss. Kissing other parts of the body such as the neck, belly, inner thighs, buttocks, pelvis area surrounding the vagina, fingers and maybe even the feet for some can heighten her pleasure. 

3. Emotional Connection
For women, sex is usually an emotional act as well as a physical act.  The deeper the emotional connection, the better the sex will be for her and the deeper her desire for her lover will become.  Share your feelings with your woman and express how you feel about her freely.  For her, what goes on outside the bedroom is an important factor of what will occur in the bedroom.

4. Foreplay  & Aferplay   *Pay extra attention to this very importan love making tip*
There is nothing that is a bigger turn off for a woman than a lover who immediately begins penetration without tending to her body and mind.  Just as important as foreplay is the period of time immediately following the sex, afterplay.  Afterplay reinforces how a woman feels about the sexual experience and will have a great impact on how she responds to her lover in the future.

5. Make Her Feel Important, 
Women also need to feel important to their lover. Take an active interest in who she is as a person and what goes on in her life. Ignite your woman’s passion by making her feel special, cherished and adored.

6. Value and Respect
For sex to be at its best, most women need to feel valued and respected by their lover. Her desire and level of satisfaction will grow deeper.  She will want her lover more frequently and be more motivated to meet his sexual needs as well. 

7. Listen
Women are more attracted to a man who listens to her and actually hears her. Being heard makes her feel important and valued, thereby increasing her feelings of intimacy with her lover and encouraging her to be free and uninhibited in her lovemaking. Her level of satisfaction is enhanced and her desire for her lover increased.

8. Show Her Your Passion & Desire
A woman wants to be wanted passionately.  She wants to see your deep desire for her and feel how much you want her. Pursue her passionately and she will be a wild cat full of desire.

9. Take Your Time  *Another very important love making tip*
The path to orgasm is just as fulfilling as the orgasm itself and the path is also important for enhancing her orgasmic experience. Take the long meandering road, savoring, pampering and adoring every part of her body along the way.

10. Be a Master of Oral
The majority of women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse.  Taking pleasure in delighting your woman orally is by far one of the most enjoyable ways for her to be satisfied.

Am I complicated if I want him to understand what I leave unsaid? Or is he too daft to decode the language of unspoken gestures? A question that has niggled us since time immemorial! We don’t expect our men to be possessed of heavenly powers but does it take that much instinctual insight to figure out when is the right time to give her emotional support and not expect something physically satiating to result out of the interaction!
Well, I am not here to do only male bashing. Women also need to understand that we are biologically different people. Our mental, emotional and aesthetic makeup is different from men. You can’t expect the poor guy to be attuned to your needs and senses all the time. Give him time to do his share of goofy time pass activities that men thrive on, namely sports and beer! He needs it as much as we need shopping and gossip!!!
And what can I say about their other activities that can best be termed as nefarious. The roving eye syndrome for example, which is incurable in men of all ages! Why can’t they resist keeping their eyes to themselves? One girl in a short skirt and strapless top walks by and the guy’s imagination takes the wildest turn possible! The one sitting next to you looking as pretty in a jeans or a suit becomes a non entity in a matter of seconds!
I have nothing against women who believe in strutting their stuff, if you’ve got it, flaunt it! But it shouldn’t necessarily work out to the disadvantage of the less flaunting variety like us just because the men in our lives choose to drool all over the former type.
Women on the other hand tend to overwork themselves when it comes to their looks! Relax ladies, maintain yourself, be attentive to trends but don’t go overboard! A man who loves you for what you are is the one who deserves you! My guy should like me even when I have a pint of oil massaged into my hair and I will adore him just as he is! But that doesn’t mean that I will always be lax about my appearance in front of him!
Men always quip about the fact that they have to lie in order to keep women happy! I agree to some extent that women tend to be oversensitive over certain issues; we have to learn to be able to take the truth at least from the men who are important in our lives!
But this bargain works both ways! Men need to share! They have to start talking and quit keeping things under wraps! What is the point of it anyways, as most men are really pathetic at it.
Men down the ages have blamed women of being too self contradictory, indecisive, fussy or in one word, complicated. But what if it is the other way round! Can’t it be that women are creatures of higher strata of evolution that makes them a mystery for the “overtly simplistic” man?
“Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it’s our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you’d like to have dinner with.”-Kathleen Mifsud-
There’s something for all of you to think about!!!
Disclaimer: This piece of writing is a jesting repartee on the age old battle of the sexes and the writer is genuinely apologetic for any frayed nerves that result on reading it!!!

I know it’s sometimes hard and even pointless but when it comes to dating, you need to play the game of love and follow certain rules. These dating rules are in fact well known secrets man has developed through the years. Women surely know most of these secrets, but not all of them. Although there are countless ways to approach women, some basic dating rules must be followed to succeed.

Dating Rule 1: Return her calls a couple of days later. This way you are in control of the situation. But be careful, do not over do it. Two days later is fine but no later than that. She may lose her interest in you completely. The idea behind this dating rule is that you must never let her think you are desperate about her. There are more important things in your life.

Dating Rule 2: Don’t spend a fortune on early dates. This is a great way to find out if a woman likes you or is after your wallet. On your first dates, do not spend much money on her. Take her to places like a cafeteria for example where you don’t have to spend much. Again do not over do it or she will think you are cheap.

Dating Rule 3: Do not sleep with her on early dates. Resist the temptation. Slow down the process. Kiss her or touch her a few times but don’t go for sex. This will really turn her on and it will increase the passion and sexual tension. Patience is a virtue but hey, don’t wait too long before making love.

Dating Rule 4: Don’t open your heart and soul early on. Be mysterious. Do not give any financial information or clues about your ex-lover or your job. Play the game of seek and hide for a while. She will do the same. Let her think she’s in control but be careful not to scare her with too much mystery.

Dating Rule 5: Don’t introduce her to your friends. At least not yet. Keep her away from your good friends at the beginning. Mistakes could happen. For example a friend of yours might reveal something you are still trying to hide. This is very common. And for god’s sake do not let her even think about flirting with your friends to make you jealous. Because she will probably try that evil technique.

Dating Rule 6: Try to stay away from her friends. At least at the start. It’s a fact that if you meet her friends you will eventually start exposing yourself to the wrong people and give the impression that she can invite her friends to go out with the two of you. She may even ask for a double date! What could be worse than that? Keep her friends away until you are confident enough to meet them.

Ok let’s face it. Men want to seduce women in order to take off their clothes and have sex with them. And the ideal would be to seduce them as quickly as possible. It’s all about testosterone. Men prioritize according to their sexual needs and that’s a fact. But how to seduce a woman quickly and efficiently?

Here are some key concepts you should have in mind:

1. Think like a woman. This is hard of course, but the idea is to start slowing things down. Women are really clever sensitive and they sure know what men want. Be smart. Do not ask her to go to bed with you on your first date. By slowing down the process of seducing a woman you are already ahead of most of your competitors.

2. Make plans. Women love men who know how to plan things. In order to seduce a woman you must have some sort of plan. Send her an invitation for a dinner you or someone else will prepare. Send her a romantic e-mail (not sexual but romantic and sweet). Leave an envelope with a mysterious and meaningful message to her doorway. Make sure she knows that you are working hard on seducing her. They just love men who keep trying and make plans to seduce them.

3. Buy her a gift. All women are seduced by gifts even if they don’t let it show. You don’t have to buy an expensive gift. Buy her a book, a chocolate or something like that. You get the point. A good idea would be to buy her a book with sweet and romantic quotes. Show her that she comes first. This is a great way to seduce a woman.

4. Start talking. Make her laugh. Women just love to laugh, it’s a fact. They are seduced by men with a quality sense of humor. But do not over do it. Don’t talk so much about yourself or your accomplishments. Don’t be selfish. Open your mind. You are not the only man in the world. This is critical. Stay focused on her thoughts and acts. Learn from her.

5. If you manage to touch her don’t go for her pants straight away. Be sensual and passionate. Most women love to be touched in various places like their necks and shoulders. Again, slow down the process. Make them wonder why you are so different from all other males who just want to make a woman take her clothes off. Resist the temptation!

6. You want to know more on how to seduce a woman. I know. So stick to the good old “Ladies First”. This applies everywhere. Especially in the bedroom. Try your best to please her first. If you are stuck, ask her what would please her. If you give her the ultimate pleasure first you are a winner. You got her. She will beg you for more. And then she will do her best to give you pleasure. And we all know what that means.

Be creative.
Take a little time to think it through.

A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.

Then again, you don’t want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation.

A daytime meeting takes the heat off.

 Lunch or coffee is a good start

Even better - a trip to the zoo.

Plenty of topics for discussion without having to deal with issues like: “What happened to your last relationship?”
And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like:
“My wife is still missing.”
“I met my first boyfriend on the prison bus.”
Yada. Yada. Yada.

Clothing

Clothing is not optional.

Wear clothes that make you feel good.

New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they’re clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that’s not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.

Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable

Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.

But mean it. Don’t just say, “Nice shoes, Gladys.”

“Swell belt, Ralph.”

Let’s review.

Find something nice. If it’s painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn’t be out with them in the first place.

Manners and/or Kindness

Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.

Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.

Listen actively to what your date says.
Don’t interrupt. While your date is talking, don’t spend time thinking about what you’re going to say when it’s your turn.

Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don’t complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you’re not going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it’s not necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him or her into a cab.

Date ideas for the week:

Take a class together.
Wine-tasting?
Photography?
Or cut to the chase with a massage class.